Alex from Costas Enterprises here and I know it’s been a long time between posts so to make up for it I thought I would just explain a little bit about what I have just started to take on.
I intend to keep writing and updating you all with changes in my life and also try to help you with more things like motivation, passive income, cooking and eating well etc.
there will be a series of posts coming soon and they will hopefully make a bit more sense and will engage with you all.
I have been keeping more active on my podcast over the last year so feel free to check it out here.
So what are you talking about Alex? What is this 52 week recipe thing?
I’m glad you asked, or thought, or read … not exactly sure which way you have asked so want to cover some of the basis .
The 52 week recipe challenge is something my partner has come up with and it involves both of us finding one recipe a week that we have never tried or made and then try to cook that for each other. Simple right?
Ok the reason why is to make sure we are both cooking more … ok so I am cooking more, as you can imagine my partner has been doing a lot of the cooking and now that she is at a vital point in career she needs me to basically step up my responsibilities in the household.
Now that is one part of it, ok a big part of it, but this is a conclusion I have come to on my own as I know she wont come out and ask for help when it comes to cooking as she is basically a whizz in the kitchen and doesn’t really need any help from books lol.
However, what is also great about this challenged is that it also opens up not only my cooking skills it also opens up our minds to be more creative with food as well as challenge ourselves to no just eat the same thing over and over again.
It also helps reduce the cost of our expenses as we intent to cook four meal (effectively). 2 x dinner and 2 x leftover lunches the next day.
Now I want to be clear we are only in week 2 of the challenge as I write this and I intend to write more and more of these as time goes on, but if you want week by week updates for my food you will need to follow my Instagram @thekiwidon
For now though I just wanted to share some images of the recipes I have tried and what they actually look like.
These recipes are old and come from old cookbooks that belonged to my father. This is also a reason for me to try the challenge as its a way of me further connecting to him now that he has passed away and I really appreciate the food he used to make for us.
This came out really tasty however I forgot to add cornstarch and …I didn’t add onion cause I don’t like it lol. The meat also wasn’t pork chops but pork steaks. Still cooked and tasted amazing.
For the veggies, I simply grabbed some frozen veggies and stir-fry them, with oyster sauce and some of the marinade mentioned in the recipe.
Cooked last night I added an extra egg, cheese, chili flakes, and extra flour and baking powder to make more that 14.
I ended up making 17 but 3 of these went missing … because I ate them as they didn’t really mix well together.
I also made the mistake of making my first ones too big so the mixture decided to spread out too much. Overall though the addition of the cheese was great and the extra egg made it taste more fluffy.
I also substituted the milk for Soy Milk which was a nice addition.
Well for now that’s the end of the article but I would love to hear if your likely to start this challenge and what you would cook, or alternatively what recipe ideas do you have for me to try?
Alex here from Costas Enterprises and today I’m going to talk about mind-set (and I apologies in advance as it’s a long one). I am going to continue to post my updates but I also want to focus on what I notice and do. I will also keep my monthly posts going as well where I cover off everything.
I want to continue to be honest with all of you. My mind-set needed to change before I even considered losing weight … or even wanted to.
Also a little disclaimer before we go down this rabbit hole. This post is going to be a little hard for me to write as its going to mean I have to face some serious truths about the way I was and address them in public. It will also be quite long, but I hope you will stick with me!
The way I was
Ok so in-case you haven’t you yet, you may want to read my previous post about my history.
I have spent years deluding myself. I lied to myself about how I was. You see, I lied to myself and everyone when they asked if I was OK.
I was not ok.
For those that know me I have had an interesting history. Things have happened in my life that have made me both grow up fast and at the same time also revert into a child-like state.
I hope I can get into a place where I can share more about that in the future and I truly believe raising this issue of mind-set will start me on the right path.
I was lying to myself and telling myself that the way I am is not only OK but, also started to believe it. When people tried to help me, I would almost resent them, thinking “they didn’t know”, because they hadn’t seen all of what I had been through.
A huge reason for this was me not actually telling anyone what was really going on.
Sure some of my friends knew most of what was going on in the background but no-one knew everything. I am usually a pretty open book … or at least that is what I portrayed myself as.
I want to take this opportunity to say sorry to my friends and despite me not opening up, the fact that they were there for me regardless of how I was feeling at the time, and that they accepted me means the world to me. You are all whanau to me.
I did start to get a bit of depression, but mostly I had no motivation, no drive. I wasn’t happy with who I was but, I was also too lazy to want to change, and I mean real change.
You see I have previously mentioned my invincible mentality. I thought I would never get sick, never have health problems. After a while, you start getting more and more “wake up” health calls and when you don’t take notice of these “wake up” calls you start to not feel so invincible.
Don’t get me wrong, I had moments of strength in will-power, but in reality I was struck by my personal kryptonite. Stubbornness.
God was I stubborn. I remember eating massive portions or drinking copious amounts of alcohol just due to my stubbornness. I felt like I had to prove I could be the invincible fat person. Just to prove everyone that thought I had weight issues that I was right and they were wrong.
If I had changed my stubbornness in my teens or early 20s and used it for good then maybe you wouldn’t be reading this now.
But as it happens, I didn’t change, so … yay??
So what was your mind-set saying that made you not want to change?, I hear you ask.
Well I have had differing shifts in mind-set during the last 32 years of Fat Life. This part of the post is being brought to you by my mock rap name Fatty Thins – “It’s all good baby, baby, It was full fat cream, I used to eat it on everything Cream and sugar were my favorite things”
… OK so I’ll never replace the original Notorious BIG but one thing I did try to do was dismiss any and all guilt of what I was putting into my mouth. There were no guilty pleasures, there was only pleasures and boy did I want all of them!
Something else I did was start to push away people that tried to help. This is one of my biggest regrets. I had a lot of people that cared about me and tried to help me, but because of the way I was I chose to push them further and further away because I didn’t like that they didn’t like me for who I was … despite me not seeing until much later on in life that they actually loved me and only wanted the best for me.
Then the worst thing started to happen.
I started to give up. I had resigned myself to an early death most likely by heart attack. My farther passed away after his 11th heart attack. Once I had given up, I didn’t really mingle with anybody, unless it was drinking or eating. I had also thought there is no way I am ever going to find a girlfriend, all the girls I knew never saw me as a potential partner, only ever as the best friend.
I tell you right now, hearing the “You’re a great guy, but let’s be friends” is one of the hardest things to hear.
So what changed?
I started to get help. About three years ago one of my friends had a serious talk with me and helped me realise that I need more than weight help, I needed mental help.
I started seeing a psycho-therapist.
Now this was a big deal for me, you see I grew up in a very old fashioned family. Put simply my family was big on the “We keep our secrets in the family.” The thought of even going and seeing a psycho-therapist was huge. But I am so glad I did.
Let me tell you right now, if you ever feel like you need help, please go and seek it! As a man I know there is this perception that we all have to be blokes and not to talk to anyone. I am saying this right now. That is a stupid way to think. We all need help and if you every need help go and seek it.
With the psycho-therapist’s help I started to develop mindfulness and also started to do some more research on changing my mind-set.
I won’t lie, it has not been easy. It has taken me three years to start to seriously change my life and my mind-set. I have failed, the difference now is I have started to learn from my mistakes and start to begin again… this time more intelligently.
I have also started to read/ listen to more podcasts/ audio books and also learn more.
The more research I do the more I find those secret pathways that I was stopping myself from seeing.
Some of the mind-set’s I have heard have not come from simple mindfulness, some have come from financial thinking.
Some people are aware of some of the books I will recommend but a lot of them mention something similar to the Be Do Have mentality. My friend actually told me first about it and gave me the below diagram.
If you aren’t aware the basics of Be Do Have is effectively:
Be – Pick someone you want to be like, research them and try to Be them, copy their mentality, actions, skills
Do – Follow their actions, if you know what you want, plan how to get there and Do the steps you need to do this
Have – By Being the person you want to emulate and Doing the actions to be that person you will Have what you want or desire.
So what tips can you give me?
Honestly, not that much, I can only tell you what has worked for me.
Put some time in to researching yourself
Practice mindfulness (check the links below for some resources)
Don’t give up, it will get better. It may not feel like it but if you’re at the bottom you’re bound to go up at some point
Believe in what you’re doing. Anything you’re doing!
If you need it, get help.
Don’t let your mind beat you. So many times I’ve felt beaten down by my own thoughts – take a break and think of something else. Try to focus on what you want to become.
BE. DO. HAVE. – Go research this, it could help start you off on the right track
Know that what you are going through is going to take time. This is a journey. Don’t expect change overnight, this is a marathon not a sprint.
If you have negative thoughts, expect negative behaviours.
Start to Love yourself and in time change will naturally happen.
Resources/ Amazon Affiliate Links
Ok so if you have read my other posts you know that I am an Amazon Affiliate which means if you click the links below and buy anything from Amazon I will get a slight commission. Any support is appreciated.
I am going to list some books that I found helpful in changing my mind-set. Some of these are financial books but they also help you further train your mind.